The Dos and Don’ts of Planning the Perfect Hen Party
Being designated Chief Bridesmaid or Maid of Honour can be a tricky business with a whole host of responsibility! Here are Oh So Cherished’s list of Do’s and Don’ts of planning the perfect hen party.
- 1. First of all, speak to the bride. Ask if she has specific ideas about what she wants, and maybe even more importantly, what she doesn’t. If she’s not sure and needs a bit of inspiration, ask about hen dos she’s been on and what she liked best from those.
- 2. Set up a Whatsapp or Facebook group to keep people up-to-date.
- 3. Hold the hen party well in advance of the wedding (and definitely not the day before!). Make sure that you give your guests plenty of notice of the date. At least 3 months beforehand is good. The more notice the better, especially if it’s going to be held during the summer. This will also give people enough time to save up.
- 4. Set a realistic budget as not everyone can afford a lavish hen do – even for a close friend or relative – so make sure you cater for a range of budgets. Ensure that you set out clearly what everything will cost so there’s no room for disagreements about what exactly people are paying for. Always get payment in advance.
- 5. Make sure that the itinerary suits everyone who is invited. Perhaps you could divide the day or weekend into several different activities that people can join in with (or not) as they wish.
- 6. Let people know if they need to bring anything specific, e.g. sophisticated evening dress or cheerleader outfit.
- 7. Take a beautiful book to record hen-do highlights. You could all add photos, words of good wishes or funny quotes, all for the bride to keep as a memento.
- 8. Have fun!
- 1. Have a jam-packed schedule. Give people enough time between activities so things don’t feel to rushed. Having a chin wag over a cuppa or a catch-up over cocktail can take longer than you think.
- 2. Go overboard with the communications; people probably don’t want to read 20 messages a day about what you have planned. Unless they’re really bored! Keep your communications concise, clear and relevant.
- 3. Do everything yourself. Delegate at least a few things to a few (trusted) friends or family members.
- 4. Forget to include the cost of the bride-to-be in your calculations (if you’re all chipping in to pay for her).
- 5. Embarass the bride. This probably goes without saying, but make sure any games or dares (or strippers!) are things she’s happy with
- 6. Post pictures of people on social media unless you know that they don’t mind, especially if the photo is less than flattering.
- 7. Overdo it on the booze. Because it’s going to be difficult to co-ordinate a brilliant night out if you have to be put in a taxi at 7pm 😉
- 8. Don’t try to please everyone – you won’t. Some people might be difficult, but don’t take it personally. As long as most people are happy and the bride has a fabulous time, you’ve done your job. Well done!
We hope you’ve found our tips useful, and wish you lots of fun if you’re planning a hen party 🙂